My mother is the strongest woman I know, she says it how it is and doesn’t take ‘shit’ from anyone.
She may be small but my goodness I wouldn’t want to get on the wrong side off her. My mother has taught me many things… I could have graduated with a personal shopping degree, out ‘talked’ anyone.. even Alan Carr and most importantly be true to myself.
My mother is not one for sugar coating any thing if I’m in the wrong .. having a strop or my dress is a bit too tight she will tell me the truth! I love her more than anyone because as much as I can fight with her, ignore her and we could have a screaming match I could never ask for a better mum. a
My mother is not a ‘DIVA’ as such but I respect her for who she is and how she is… as a family we have lost a loved one so close that the thought of me typing these words give me goosebumps (and tears.)
I lost my father when I was 15, my gorgeous mum was only 43 (looked about 26) and my brother was a fresh faced 18 year old. Life kicked us in the teeth, we had our ups and downs as a family but most importantly my mother dealt with it.
What I am trying to say is that my mum didn’t try and start a new life or bury her problems she faced them and has made me into the ‘super’ woman I am today.
My mum tells me about my dad and when they first started dating… seriously do men like this even exist?? My father was an amazing husband and the best daddy I could ask for…..I miss him more than words could ever explain but know what I have had in those 15 years some people don’t get in a life time. Back in the day when they were dating and mobile phones didn’t exist.. the arranged a date! My mum was late because of work and buses…. she was 2 and a half hours late… any man would of left the restaurant… thought he would of been stood up and he waited and waited until she arrived. I have never met a man that is as decent as my father and when I do I will marry them …lol .. some people don’t know what they have until its gone!
I believe that people come into your life for a reason, wether that is to teach you a lesson, break your heart…make you the happiest person…etc
If you take anything from this post here are a few tips from my mum:
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If life is a bit shit right now or things are getting you down… don’t let it beat you… stand up (you can literally stand up if you want… no harm in a bit of exercise)….and carry on… No one like a moaner or someone who feels sorry for themselves.. this is YOUR life so live it the way YOU want it.
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Never take shit from any man….. unfortunately I had to learn the hard way…. you know they say your mother is always right…. as much as it killed me to say it a year ago its true!
What I mean by ‘sh*t’ is losing your values, losing respect for yourself and letting someone walk all over you. I treat people the way I would like to be treated… not going to lie but my standards are pretty high…If I am nice to you the least you can do is be nice or civil back.
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Be real….. don’t bullshit yourself with excuses and he said she said rubbish… face the facts…. if he cheated he is likely to cheat again (a leopard never changes his spots)… if he hit you and then tried to say sorry… he will do it again! Don’t be afraid to walk away you deserve the best!
Be real in every situation…. don’t just take it…EVERYONE has a choice… some people believe that they don’t but they have already made their choice.
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Be open minded…. don’t judge people if you don’t know them…. I am judged all the time… not sure why but even I judge others when they walk past me ,…. its natural! Point is don’t be a fool but accept everyone for how they are.. and yes first impressions really do count.
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RESPECT– yes Aretha said it … respect yourself ladies… in every sense of the word… wether that rejecting the friend who only calls you when she has nothing better to do … (not really a true friend) or standing up to the bully in your life… TAKE CONTROL ladies….. seriously you don’t want to be 70 racing around in your pimped our granny mobile wishing you would of gone on that girls holiday or accepted that once in a life time job.
The point I am really trying to make in this non fashion non beauty related blog is be true to yourself. I feel that so many people are so cold hearted… prime example some crazy lady started ranting at me on the train the other day for no reason… like NO REASON… swearing… did any one get involved? No
Listen ladies… and gents if you are reading this… you can paint your pretty smile with your lipstick and fix your hair … if you are not happy with whats going on make a change… wether is be a drastic change or little changes… be happy! Smile… you are amazing… never let ANYONE put you down and if someone isn’t appreciating how amazing you are then you need to walk away and stop wasting your time!
Life is so short… LIVE IT ! ENJOY IT …. three years ago I wrote down a list of all the careers I wanted to do … and all the things I wanted to learn. DO IT NOW… wether you want to work in a circus or become a doctor! Find your happiness within you…. if you are not happy with yourself you will never be able to find happiness in someone else… remember relationships are not to complete you but compliment you… bring out the best in you!
Assess your life, be happy, set goals and start working ladies!
Nobody said it was easy…. if it was it wouldn’t be worth having!
xxxx
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